Use this before you text back, send money, or make plans. Check the boxes that are true.
Before I reply
- I waited at least a few hours before replying (no instant replies to chase attention)
- I am not replying because I feel anxious or afraid of losing them
- I am not about to send a second text they did not answer
- My reply says what I actually want, not what I think they want to hear
Before I spend money
- This gift or money is something I can truly afford
- They asked me for it, or I offered it without being pressured
- I would still do this if they never paid me back or thanked me
- It does not cover a bill or something I need
Before I make plans
- I am not canceling my own plans to be available
- They have shown effort too (plans, time, respect), not just words
- I still have time for my goals, friends and rest this week
Score: If you could not check more than half the boxes in any section, slow down. Take a day before you act. Want more? See Money Boundaries and the Simp Test.